You Got This

When I started my blog, my intention was to pay forward everything I have learned and show that I am proof there is light after darkness, struggle and chaos. I know from talking to a lot of you who read my blog that you are doing the work and are in the midst of this journey. I wanted to take this week to refresh on what I mentioned in the first few blogs so that you can check in with yourself and notice how much work you are doing and how far you have come in the past five months. Sometimes this journey is a very lonely one because it is all about self and healing self, so I am here to tell you and/or to remind you that you got this – we got this.

I wrote in my second blog that changing your life becomes the fight of your life, but I know with hard work it is possible to come out on the other side stronger and more secure in who you are than you have ever been. I believe this for you with everything I am because I lived through it. I am re-posting my mini-guide to healing for you so you can do a check-in with yourself and see how far you have come or what changes you still want to make in your daily life. Remember you are worth it and continue to be present in every choice you make for yourself.

I know from my own journey that it is very easy to get tired and feel like you aren’t making any progress, but trust that you are. One minor change still creates change so be proud of yourself for where you are at on this journey. Be kind to yourself while you go through this struggle. Remember it is ok to cry – that is part of healing and letting go. Remember that it is ok to nap and to sleep when you are tired – healing is a lot of work and takes a toll on your body. You are healing your body, mind and soul, so you need good nutrition, healthy sleep habits, and time for yourself. Learn to listen to the signals that your body and soul are giving you because they always know what you need. Trust your intuition because it is trying to guide you while you make changes. You are learning all about self-love and self-care and growing stronger every day. You may not feel that way because you have been facing your demons and your struggles head-on. This can be an exhausting experience, so just know that you will be tired and rest is needed. This healing journey requires you to put your needs first and to take care of yourself. I learned that the down-time and needing rest is also where you will learn to be kind to yourself and get to know yourself again. Embrace this time because it will not always be like this. Once you start healing, life will start to pick up again – but in a good way. Rest now and be ready for it.

… and the journey continues.


In love and light,

Fran



Your Mini Guide to Healing

Remember that healing is work but worth every second.

Healing isn’t a destination it is a journey and can take years to a lifetime to achieve.

Be prepared for how different life will look in the beginning - you will feel as if you just took off a pair of sunglasses. You will be amazed and angry at what you see and wonder how you let things get that out of control. You must remind yourself that you did the best you could with what information you had available to you at that moment in time and moving forward you will promise yourself to do better and be better.

Don’t get angry at other people when you are angry with yourself.

Forgive yourself for where you are and what you didn’t know or couldn’t see and then move forward.

Remember your will for change has to be stronger than your fear of change.

Keep your eyes forward and out of the past. Focus on the here and now.

Remember that focusing on the past brings pain - the future brings worry - the present brings peace.

Love yourself. This journey is about self-love, so you have to love yourself and take time for yourself first. Loving yourself first is the only way you will have enough left over to give to everyone else.

Take 5 minutes for yourself every morning before your day starts then no matter what happens during the day you know you gave to yourself first and will never feel resentful.

Respect yourself - if you don’t then you can’t expect anyone else to either - you set the standard for how to be treated.

Forgiveness isn’t weakness - forgiving others helps to heal yourself.

Be grateful for who you are and what you have.

Learn to go with the flow - if you are forcing something to happen then don’t do that - that is a block put up to protect you and help you from going off your own life path.

When you hear something or see something three times pay attention – the message is for you.

Breathe.

Eat healthy - sleep 7-8 hours - drink water. Everything else is ok but in moderation.

Live a balanced life: Work - Rest - Play - Pray - Exercise.

Make room for the people and things that bring joy to your life: Live - Love – Laugh.

Meditate - even if meditation for you means sitting still with your own thoughts for a few minutes.

Pay attention to your thoughts and trust your intuition and you will be Divinely guided in the right direction.

While you are working on yourself try and stay away from negative news, tv, movies and negative people.

Find at least one thing to be grateful for every day. When you are grateful for what you already have then you will automatically receive more.

Keep a gratitude journal. Make it special and pick up a notebook with your favorite color and a cool pen you like, or you can get a small box or jar and write on post it notes and put them in it. If you don’t want to keep a real journal with pen and paper, then use the notes on your phone. I believe journals become like a portal to the other side and magical things happen when you show gratitude. At the end of the year, you can have a ceremony for yourself where you burn your journals. Ten years ago, I did a ceremony with a few friends and burned eight journals and it was a very healing experience.

Use crystals, sage, essential oils, meditation, prayer, Reiki or whatever speaks to you to protect yourself and make a safe space for yourself. Even a nice chair in the corner near a window can become a safe space to think, write or just be alone with your thoughts.