One Day at a Time

We are now on Blog 32 and after this week we will have twenty more to go. I hear from a lot of you about doing the work and making changes, and so grateful for your input and that this journey is making a difference for you. In my first blog I stated that “my plan for the next year is to blog weekly about everything I learned from my studies and from my experience. My hope is that it can help others on their healing journey, and I also look forward to seeing where the next year of blogging will take me on mine.” It warms my heart when I hear feedback from you since when I started this blog, my thought process was that I would be putting out what I had learned to help others. The part I wasn’t ready for was that a new level of change and healing was getting ready to present itself for me. Most of the time now, when I write this blog, I am talking about things I have learned that I want to share with you, and it is also the lessons I am revisiting at that moment. I am learning that healing and change never stops, you just reach a new level of healing, knowledge and enlightenment. The goal for all of us is to then share what you have learned with the next person who needs it. We are all connected and that is how we heal and grow.

What I have been presented with lately is remembering to take this journey one step at a time and one day at a time. In my fifth blog I wrote, “this journey may seem overwhelming at first, but just remember it is a process and baby steps are needed. The truth is it took a long time to lose yourself, so the process of finding yourself again can take just as long. The comforting part is that as soon as you set the intention to make changes, then change starts to happen. Please do not get discouraged when first starting out. This is all about baby steps and moving forward one step at a time. Your baby steps may be three steps forward and two steps back, or if you are carrying around as much baggage as I was, then it may seem like two steps forward and three steps back. You may journal one day and get triggered and lose your balance and find that it takes days for you to recover. Remember no matter what happens pick yourself up and keep going. You may feel like you are starting over again and again but remember you are not. Each step forward you will be bringing the knowledge and lessons learned with you, so that next step forward may take you half the time as the last. Be kind to yourself on this journey. Everyone has their own story and baggage, so everyone moves at their own pace, and that is ok and part of healing. The goal is self-love, peace and happiness and is all that matters. Remember it takes as long as it takes.” Now that we are months beyond that time, and change is happening, it is important to remember that those baby steps forward also entail taking it one day at a time.

I was familiar with that term but really didn’t understand its meaning until about a decade ago. When you are so far in darkness and can’t see straight, and looking to make changes, the only way out and to survive is taking it one day at a time. You cannot look back, you cannot look forward, you must look only at the present. You must face the now. I am familiar with that feeling when waking up and showing up takes all the energy you have and anything more than that seems impossible. That is a sign self-focus and self-love is needed and to focus on the one day at a time. Ask yourself, what do I have to do today. You may have many things to do and feel overwhelmed but learn to break it down. Just for today, what is a priority. Some things can wait until tomorrow and some cannot. Focus on necessities and priorities and the things you need to do for today that will bring you a sense of peace and accomplishment – everything else can be for another day. Set goals, both long term and short term, but then break it down again to monthly, weekly, daily, hourly and learn to be in the present. You have heard me use terms like Let Go, Let God and this is where that comes into play. You have a goal and now give the rest to the Universe, trusting that they will guide you. Show up every day for yourself and the rest will work itself out. You are learning an important lesson and that is that focusing on the past brings sadness, the future brings anxiety, but focusing on the present brings peace.

This is where I am at on my journey as well. When I look back it comes with confusion and woulda, coulda, shoulda and those words have no place in our lives. You cannot change the past, so just learn from it. When I look down the road at everything, I want to accomplish I have to refocus on today or else I will give myself anxiety. There is too much I want to get done so my focus is what do I have to do today to get there and that is my focus, The rest I am giving to God and trusting that He has my back. I always say that if you show up in the right way with only good, positive intentions, then you can’t go wrong. Be present. Focus on today. Focus on you. Give love and consideration to everyone that shows up for you today, everyone else detach with love. People and situations that are supposed to be there for you will show up for you. Always do your best and give your best. Be the light for someone else’s darkness. Take this life one day at a time and give it your all and see what shows up for you.

Wishing you continued peace and happiness on this journey.

 

In love and light,

Fran