The signs of Fall are all around me
which led to the title of this week’s blog, Seasons for Change. While
living in Florida everyday felt like Summer and sunshine, so now that I am
living up north again, I am hypersensitive to the changes in nature around me. While
looking at the leaf on my chair as I was having coffee the other day, I was
reminded of how we are parallel to the seasons and how are lives are in a
constant state of change. The world around us is always changing and moving
forward, so our external world never staying the same is the one thing we can
always rely on. When we refuse to move along with those changes, we remain
stuck and faced with the consequences of holding on to a past we should have
already moved on from. We aren’t allowing ourselves to move with the changes of
life, and sometimes in doing that, we allow something great that is meant for
us to slip right through our fingertips.
This is why it important to not be
attached to outcomes and learn to go with the flow. When going through a hard
time, it is important to remember that this is just a season of your life, it
is not the rest of your life. Just like Summer turns to Fall, and Fall turns to
Winter, our lives will move through seasons as well. When looking back on your
life you can see the different seasons you have been through and how you
handled those times in your life. Learn from your mistakes. Sometimes you were
happy, sometimes sad, sometimes struggling and sometimes successful. We move
through many phases, and our choices can always be seen in hindsight. Now that
you are growing stronger and making better choices, you will move through these
seasons more quickly. I always say I was a slow learner when it came to boundaries,
so the seasons of my life that were hard for me were longer seasons than they
should have been. Now I can look back with clarity and see my mistakes, so now
when those lessons are presented to me again, I face them in a new way. I face
them in a healthier way.
I am at a point in my life right
now, where I know I am being asked if the changes I made for myself and the
lessons I learned for the past decade are going to stick or am I going to have
to relearn these hard lessons. Am I confident? Do I have boundaries? Am I
settling for less than? Am I putting my needs first or am I continuing to give
my power away to people and circumstances. Do I make decisions from fear or
confidence? Have I let go of my past? Have I learned from it? Have I forgiven
myself for not knowing what I know now? Remember that we can only make choices
based on what we know and can’t continue beating ourselves up for what we didn’t
in our past. Maybe the people who were supposed to teach us didn’t and we were
left to fend for ourselves. Maybe we didn’t have good role models, so we had to
stumble along learning what other people already knew. Now that we have taken
back control of our lives, we are different, we have more knowledge, and yes,
now we are responsible for making better choices for ourselves and for the
people we love and care about.
One of the biggest changes I am
making for myself right now revolves around my work, so the one thing I will be
changing is I will be posting my blog later in the day on Wednesdays. I am working
and training for a new career, so my days are full, and my time is limited and
sometimes dictated by external training. I am embracing the changes because I
know they are for my better good and the goals I set for myself. I am learning
to make the changes and when needed, adjust accordingly. I know to keep this
pace I must put eating healthy and sleep first. When you do that everything
else follows suit and you will be able to accomplish what you wish. It is
important to think of your body as a car that you want to rely on. You must
take care of it if you want it to continue to run. Focus on your physical,
mental, emotional and spiritual health, and in doing so, you will be able to
move through the seasons of your life with much more ease.
I always say it is important to keep your eyes forward, but to see how far you have come look back on the past year and see what changes you have
made. Are you stuck in a season or are you moving through it just fine. Be
patient and kind to yourself while making changes. You can’t rush change just
like you can’t rush Winter. When you are in the midst of change you may feel
like the world is heavy and the sun will never shine again. Remember that Summer always comes,
and the light at the end of your tunnel will too. Keep moving through the seasons of your life. I promise you will be so
happy that you did.
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