I was talking with a coworker a few weeks ago about being around positive and negative people at work, and he made that statement. I loved it because it simplified and described exactly what we are trying to do here. Be a proton, not a neutron.
When we are talking about changing our life, we are always trying to stay positive, be positive, and trying to learn to look at the glass half full. We do this because we are trying to undo a life of toxicity and negativity. We were surrounded by darkness, and it became our normal. What we sometimes don’t realize, is it's important to stay positive because we are all connected, and our energy affects everyone around us. Our energy affects our friends, families, coworkers, people we meet at the store, and every single person we encounter throughout our day. We carry our energy around with us and exchange it with everyone. When you are trying to heal it is very important that you give out positive energy because that is what you are trying to get back. We are learning to be the light and the positive force and exchange that willingly. We are also learning to stay grounded in that light and not let negativity swoop in and try and steal it.
When you are new to healing it is very easy to let those around you still influence your thoughts and actions. Their moods are our moods, their troubles are our troubles, and eventually we lose ourselves to a life of manipulation. We are so out of sync with our own feelings and our own desires, that we don’t realize we are being manipulated. We are not in control, darkness is. There are the people who thrive on negativity and manipulating people, and there are those of us who have lost our light and living in negativity allowing ourselves to be manipulated. Once you are moving along on your healing journey you will be able to see the difference. You will become so strong in your light and positivity that darkness doesn’t have a chance. Think of a dark room, once you turn that light on you can see everything.
I always describe that moment as feeling like you took off a pair of sunglasses and now you can see. That moment usually comes with a lot of oh wow what have I done feelings. You didn’t realize how lost in darkness you were; you didn’t realize the level of manipulation and losing yourself, and you understand that change needs to happen. Some refer to this as an awakening because once you have hit this moment, there is no going back. The darkness that once fit you like a glove feels uncomfortable. The old ways of doing things don’t work. People who have been in your life for a long time no longer fit. There is a new you (the old you) waiting to be reignited. The only way forward is living a life of positivity and light so darkness can be removed. Your journey begins right here at this moment.
When you don’t take control of your past and stay in those negative feelings that’s when you become a neutron. You stay the same with no growth. A very negative person on the outside who has no idea the darkness and uncomfortable feelings they are projecting out onto the world around them. Everything is an issue, everything is a problem, they are angry and negative and want everyone to be as miserable as they are. But then you have the people who want to move away from that. They want to find their joy, their happiness, and they want to find their light again. The negativity makes them feel uncomfortable, so they are seeking a new way of living. Those are the people who are showing up in a new way, and they are doing the work every day. Those are the people like us.
The best advice I have to help stay on your new path is to seek out everything positive and stay away from everything negative. That is a very hard thing to do considering the world we live in right now, but it can be done. We are surrounded by gossip and negative news, greed and shady ways of living, so you have to learn to walk away. You must learn to be comfortable in your own skin. You must learn to trust yourself and your intuition that your way is the right way. I always say that if you are coming from a good place and a positive place then you can’t go wrong. When you have others’ feelings and well-being in mind then you can’t go wrong. When it becomes self-serving that is when you know you are headed in the wrong direction. When it is out of revenge or spite steer clear. Things like that may feel good in the moment, for a second, but your healing conscience will soon take over and realize what a mistake that was. While you go about your day be a good person, be a positive person, and on days you can’t just be your best. When you are at a loss of how to be your best, just give a stranger a smile - it works every time. The lesson is to work through your issues without feeling the need to throw that negativity at everyone in your path. They don’t deserve that the same way you didn’t. Work through it knowing that there is a very bright light at the end of that dark tunnel.
This journey can sometimes feel like the rockiest road you have ever been on. Three steps forward, two steps back. Tests, lessons, fear, doubt, everything on that healing path will try and take you off because the only way forward is finding the light within yourself. Self-love and self-confidence are where your true light and strength lie. The light lives inside, and it is your job to shine it outward. Be a light for yourself, be a light for others. This is the way to change the level and the vibration of your existence. Be positive. Be a proton.
In love and light,
Fran
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