Last week my son read my blog, Creating a New Life, and said yes, I’m doing that and now that I’m going with the flow like my brother does it is all working out. No more stress, no more time limits, no more high expectations, just learning to live one day at a time and one moment at a time. We were talking about how my youngest son has it figured out because he doesn’t let anything bother him. He naturally has a go with the flow attitude, and everything seems to work out the way he wants it to. The rest of us deal with OCD, being control freaks and forever getting in our own way and only now learning the trick to living a more peaceful, healthier life. Stay out of it, go with the flow and let life happen for you and it will all work out.
As you move along on your healing journey, this go with the flow attitude will become very important for you too. The middle of change is where we begin to feel uncomfortable because we are no longer in the old and haven’t quite reached our new. Our new normal is not our comfort zone just yet, so we begin to try and control everything. Our comfort zone may still be how we were functioning in our toxic past, and we are trying to move away from that. We are coming out of survival mode. Trusting in our choices and what we envisioned for ourselves must take priority. Releasing our expectations of how we think everything should show up for us is key. We were stuck in a limiting belief system, so our minds can’t even grasp how wonderful life can be. When we sit back and let life unfold for us is when we will begin to see the wonder of what we asked for. Life will show up grander and more abundant than we ever imagined it could. That is if we can learn to release control, stay out of it and just go with the flow. Our mind set must be that we are deserving and will allow good things to happen for us.
Our minds may begin to wander off which is why going with the flow can be hard. We hear these little voices in our head don’t do that, do this, that won’t work, but this, but that, and these are all signs to quiet down your mind and get back in charge. I am at this stage right now because so much change is happening, and remembering to go with the flow is trippin me up. My insides want to resort back to survival mode because things aren’t working out exactly as I had planned. I start trying to control everything and all that does is become a block for what I really want. I am trying to control outcomes, and I am not listening to my intuition, I am tired, I am hungry, wah wah wah. This is what I hear when I don’t go with the flow. I hear nonsense. I am trying to control situations, when the truth is the only thing I can control is myself. What I need to do is just focus on what I have to and let the rest figure itself out. When I remember to just sit back and relax, I can see that life is trying to work out better than I imagined. When we learn to just focus on ourselves, that’s when life will happen exactly how it is supposed to. I know that I must have trust and faith. I have put everything I want in motion, so now I just must let God and The Universe do what they need to do. I have to stay out of it.
I have been on this healing journey for a long time, but every time I am working on reaching a new level and a new goal it’s like starting all over again. The same fears try and come up only now it doesn’t take as long to get back on track. I am stronger now and have more knowledge and experience, so getting back on track is easier. Now I may just need a gentle reminder, or I will see a sign or hear something that states no that is no longer you, what are you doing, you already learned that lesson. Sometimes we are tested to see if the lessons are sticking. Sometimes staying out of it and releasing control is how we stay calm so that we can see and hear those signs. I know for me, when I am not going with the flow and running around trying to control everything, I hear and see nothing. I am in panic mode. I am in control freak mode. I can tell you for sure, nothing works out when you are coming from that place. That is the place when I make a mess of what I have created or where I want to go.
I understand that when we are first starting out with change, giving up control can be the hardest thing to do. The best way to go with the flow is to remind yourself every day that I can’t always control my external world, but I can definitely control my inner world. Bring it all back to self. Self-love and self-care and having trust and faith in a force outside yourself is always the best way to go. Let Go and Let God helps me get back on track every time. Look up and remember that someone is always looking down willing to help us and guide us.
In love and light,
Fran
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