Protecting Your Peace

We are now a week away from completing this year-long journey together, and I was trying to think of something valuable you could take with you, and needed, as you continue along on your own healing journey. Protecting your peace. Now that you have worked so hard and made all these changes, the most important thing for you to do is protect your peace. Your body was so accustomed to chaos and noise, so once you find your happiness in the calm and in the silence, protect it. That progress is yours and boundaries will be very important. This is not your new normal yet, so until it is, you will be tested by people and situations trying to veer you off track. Stand your ground and protect what you have worked so hard to attain. Never give your peace or that power over to anyone but yourself.

This is easier said than done, so why remaining present in your thoughts and decisions is still important. Being on autopilot is the easiest way to go off track, so remain in the moment. I have been on this journey for a long time, and still reminding myself to stay present. Old habits and toxic, chaotic ways of doing things are always trying to creep back in to deter us from who we are now. The good news is the old ways will begin to feel uncomfortable. The new you embraces the quiet and enjoys the silence because you are growing comfortable in who you are now. Once you get there you will feel the need to protect it with everything you are.

I have mentioned in previous blogs, how you can tell me that two plus two is five and I will say ok and be on my way. That is because I do protect my peace and will choose what situations require me to engage and what ones require me to take the high road and walk away. I no longer feel the need to be right or prove I am right if it means a disruption in my energy field. The knowing I am right is enough for me. Once you engage in negative and toxic situations or conversations, watch your body and mood change. Be aware of what you want to take on because you are not required to take on everything, especially other people’s stuff. You have the choice. There is always a choice to engage, to pause, to walk away, to forgive, to discuss, you make the choice. Self-love and self-care are how you make those decisions. Remember there is no wrong choice, as long as you aren’t coming from a vengeful place. Always make decisions coming from a loving place, and that means a self-loving place as well.

Boundaries are something I have always struggled with from a very young age. When you are codependent and trying to live your life being a good person, sometimes making decisions for yourself becomes hard because you are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings – or afraid of what people will think. We don’t understand self-love, so we become people pleasers. The best advice I have picked up along the way is to stay confident in your own decisions knowing that people react to your decisions based on their own “junk”. When someone isn’t there for you or supportive of you, then that usually has to do with their perception, not yours, so important to know who you are and be secure in who you are. We must live our lives the best way we know how based on what is right for us. That is how we stay in our strength and that strength allows us to keep giving. When we do things for other people, not in our own best interest, then we slowly give our strength away to the point we have nothing left. We get lost. That is when we grow angry, and resentful, and eventually shut down and have nothing left to give. We allowed someone else the control. We give away our peace.

This healing journey is a never-ending journey of self-healing, self-care and self-love. You will take three steps forward and then one step back. You fall, you get up. You will notice that once you reach a goal or milestone in your life, you will reach another. Your boundaries and your intuition grow stronger every single day. You learn to trust yourself and rely on yourself like you never have before, all while learning to balance mind, body and soul. You now understand that it is all dependent on self.

Setting boundaries and trusting my intuition are the two most important things I work on every single day, and for me, they work hand in hand. I understand that I can never be balanced or happy if I am working on one without the other. When I trust my intuition and my gut knowing that I oversee my own life, I am finding my peace. When I set strong clear boundaries of what I will and will not tolerate, I am protecting my peace. Once I understood the combination, I became more comfortable in my own skin. I run the show of my life. My thoughts, my decisions, my choices, my struggles, my failures, but also my accomplishments are my own sense of self. The peace I found and worked so hard for I protect with self.


In love and light,

Fran